short rant about expectations
One thing that came to my realization this evening is that life as a whole is actually much, much easier if you don't live to fulfill someone else's vision, because they told you that "I'd do X in your situation" or "I'd give a lot to be where you stand".
Until a few months ago, I was frequently getting texts like these from a few people. Now that I cut/reduced contact with them, I don't find myself constantly thinking that I have to do something because someone else told me to.
To some, above might look like getting normal pieces of advice from friends and relatives, to me in most cases it always felt like I'm depending on someone else's approval over my ideas and actions. It feels pretty awesome to finally be the only person to judge things I do even before I begin doing them.
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